I read somewhere today that this week is the week of simplicity. When I tried to fact check it I came up with nothing. So I purpose that this week and every week moving forward is one that we focus on simplicity. Sure there may be weeks here and there that we make life more complicated, but for the most part if we can live 80% of our lives with a focus on simplicity everything will go much smoother.
Simplicity in listening: I have been working on this the last month as I really listen to my youngest son. So often I am stuck in my own thoughts. My brain is stuck in the drama of personal relationships or work activities that I forget to really listen. He makes comments like he needs deodorant or shampoo and I too soon forget. Sure I could write it down but I always tell myself that I can remember it, and then poof it is gone out of my mind.
But sometimes the listening is for much deeper things. It is the way he sighs or answers a question reluctantly that I know to dig a little deeper. By being an active listener you become more privy to private information. I was reminded of this today while I was video chatting with my middle son. He could see the distraction on my face and hear it in my voice. He finally called me out on it and told me I wasn’t listening to him. He was right. I was in a hurry between appointments and wanted to talk to him so I squeezed in 10 minutes.
Simplicity in shopping: I love Target and Costco but when I go I spend more money than I intended. I try to go only when I need something and then I stick to my list. But sometimes I slip up and go on a whim, big mistake. I now am the proud owner of a wooden paddle grill grate scrapper. Yes we already have two similar grill cleaners. But I was with a friend and she told me how great it was. So I bought it. My husband uses it when he cleans the grill, along with our other two. I need an intervention! Or never shop with my friend again.
I need to keep in mind that the impulse buy
is never a good idea. I need to stick to my list and my budget. If I do not see an immediate need for it, it needs to stay in the store. I also try to imagine where I am going to store it when I purchase. If I don’t have room for a new sofa, I don’t buy it. If I don’t have time to read a new book, the book stays at the store.
Simplicity in scheduling: Taking control of my time is essential. I schedule organizing clients only three afternoons a week. I have tried mornings with clients and weekends and it just does not work. To be at my best for my clients I need to work at my optimal time. It took me some time to figure that out. But once I did my schedule became one I look forward to.
I also know how important it is to spend time with a particular friend of mine. She calms me down. Often neither of us need to say a thing. We can look at each other and know what the other is thinking. I told another friend last week that my job is connecting with people over a cup of tea and listen. Listening is a lost art, one that I practice daily and am trying to get better at.
So this week see where you can practice simplicity. Be mindful of it and realize that for most of us it does not come natural. We are so busy that we miss living a life. We think we need to keep up with the Kardashian’s. I am here to tell you that you don’t. They are not real people. Your friend fighting cancer is a real person. Your neighbor down the street who lost her husband is a real person. So take some time and schedule time to spend with them and listen and practice a little simplicity.
To Joyful, Simplified Organizing,
Melissa is a Productivity Consultant and author living in Fargo, North Dakota doing her best of living a life full of adventure. Filling a life of memories and not of things!
Melissa’s e-book on Kitchen Organizing can be found on Amazon.