Sometimes I just need to laugh at myself. Here I am a smart woman who can make quick decisions for other people, but when it comes to my own, I get stuck. I even hired not one, but two business coaches to help me figure out my business life.
I have to laugh at how a simple decision can be made complex by my overactive mind. Here is a great example, our broken snow blower. It is not just a broken snow blower but a symbol of something much bigger, in my mind. The snow blower will cost $500 to repair. A new one that is similar in size and power costs about $1,300.
But if I bought the new snow blower I would be committing to living in my house for several more years. And if I continued to live in my house I would want to redo the bathrooms and put new carpet in. You see how my mind can quickly spiral out of control. All because of a broken snow blower.
Oh but wait, my mind continues. Because the last two winters have been low on snow I have this false sense in thinking that the rest of winters are going to be like this. And because I am an organizer who is trying to minimize my possessions, I really don’t want to add a new heavy piece of machinery to our garage.
I think about the possibility of us borrowing our neighbors snow blower for the few times it snows enough to use a snow blower. Or hiring a service to remove the snow those few times a year. I also look at the fact that my husband and I are healthy and we can physically remove most of the snow ourselves.
While I didn’t hire two business coaches to help me with making decisions about fixing or buying a new snow blower, I did hire them to help me with some pretty difficult decisions. But the steps to determine most decisions in life really are similar.
Give yourself grace: This tip was given to me by a friend as she heard me discuss the decisions are am wrestling with. I am so stuck in perfectionism that I am afraid of making the wrong decision. I want to do what is best for our family first and foremost. Me taking chances and working hard are not what matters. Having the money to provide for my family is.
Confide in your key people: My husband is such an easy person to talk to as are my close circle of friends. Sometimes key decisions need to have different points of view. My business coaches are great at this as are my key friends. Gather your people and ask for input.
Make a list of pros and cons: The tried and true method of taking pen to paper and writing out will give you clarity. There is something about making that list. Seeing the columns side by side that will give clarity to the situation. There is power in that list.
Just let time pass: Sometimes we just need to let life happen and see if things settle down. Waiting to let time pass can seem like the easy way out, but it really can be the mature thing to do. I like making quick decisions, but sometimes time does heal.
Getting rid of possessions can be just as difficult, especially if there is guilt or sadness involved. Guilt of money spent. Sadness of time that has passed as children outgrow toys. Sadness of a family member that has died and the possessions that need to be sorted. These same steps apply.
Making decisions can be challenging and often paralyzing. We get stuck in perfectionism and we can’t move forward. We don’t want to hurt anyone. We don’t want to make the wrong decisions. So we stop and stress about even making the decision. Instead, stop and take a breath. Make a plan. And if making that plan requires you to first make a plan, be ok with that. I for one and giving myself some grace this week and making my list of pros and cons. That list will give me clarity that will help me create my plan.
To Joyful, Simplified Organizing,
Melissa is a Productivity Consultant living in Fargo, North Dakota doing her best of living a life full of adventure. Filling a life of memories and not of things!