Go Past Your Comfort Zone

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone” Neale Donald Walsch

This saying really hit me this morning as I was looking to what I want to do in 2012. I also took the time to reflect on 2011. I seem to think I play it safe and play by the rules, but every once in awhile I bend those rules and play out of my comfort zone. What I have found is that when I take chances some amazing things happen. I never think of the risk vs. reward, I just do it and never look back. Here are some examples of things that I have done that were outside of my comfort zone.

  • Changed careers when I was in my late 30’s. Many people thought I was crazy, but those people were not my friends and deep down I really don’t care what they thought. I am faced with new challenges every day and making decisions by myself on what to focus with my business in 2012.
  • Willing to write and share my heart with the public. I have found that when I write from my heart with tears flowing down my face, it resonates with others and they appreciate it. Some of the comments that I have received this year have been amazing and a true blessing. I am so glad I took that chance and wrote those words.
  • Saying no to the volunteering that didn’t make me happy. I think women have the disease to please and I started saying no to volunteering that didn’t make me happy and yes to volunteering with things that did make me happy!
  • Spending time alone. This was hard as I have always been surrounded by people. Maybe it is the fact that I had 3 babies in 5 years and I didn’t know what alone time was anymore. However, in 2011 I traveled alone to conferences where I didn’t know anyone. That in the past would have scared the life out of me. I have found in fact that I love traveling by myself. I even had a life changing conversation with a woman sitting next to me on a plane from Las Vegas. If I had been traveling with someone, I would have missed that opportunity. I also made new friends at the conferences. One I visited in New York in October and another I plan to share a room with at our conference in Baltimore in March. What a blessing!
  • Learned to listen to my instinct and not my brain. My brain always tells me that I couldn’t do something while my instinct or gut told me I could. I like the positive way that my instinct thinks and I will continue to follow it!
  • Loved deeper. I have this thing with keeping friends at arms distance and not sharing my true self with them. I have this fear of being let down and disappointed as well as showing them my flaws and scars. Guess what, sometimes I will be disappointed but sometimes I will be amazed at the love and compassion that can be shown to me. And once I started being open and honest about my flaws and scars, only then could I finally start to heal.
  • Learned when to walk away. I have this affliction in my heart that tries to help fix people. I want everyone to live an amazing life and I feel like I can help show them. But what I learned is not everyone is ready and that they need to figure it out on their own, without my help. And who do I think I am thinking I can fix them? I will continue to be there as a friend but I will no longer try to fix them because maybe, just maybe, they aren’t broken.

So as 2011 comes to an end, start thinking about what you can do in 2012 that takes you past your comfort zone. Because if life begins at the end of your comfort zone, don’t you want to see what you are missing? My friend Beth has an “outside the box” goal for every month in 2012. What a great idea and I think I am going to do that as well. Because when we challenge ourselves and really live in the moment outside of our comfort zone, amazing things begin to happen.


To Joyful, Simplified Living,

MS. Simplicity

MS. Simplicity, also known as Melissa Schmalenberger  operates her business as I Did it with MS. Simplicity.  She is a Professional Organizer based out of Fargo, ND and her website can be found at http://www.mssimplicity.com/