“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss. This is a quote that is attributed to Dr. Seuss, but in fact it is not one of his quotes. Looking for the author of the quote left me empty handed, but whoever said it was pure genius.
Do you say what you feel? For me 99% of the time I do, and when I don’t I later regret it that 1% of the time. There is a big difference of speaking what you feel with love and without love. As long as it comes from a place of love, you rarely can go wrong. If you know me, you know that I speak my truth. But lately I have been holding some of it back and it is not going well. I need to reclaim saying what I feel 100% of the time, and ASAP!
For the most part, I surround myself with people who matter and who speak what they feel 100% of the time. This makes for a much easier life, be with the people who you love. Give attention to the people you love and most importantly who love you back. Once you start doing that, you will start to experience life in a whole new way. New people will come into your life. Some friends will go out. The ones who go out, were never really true friends in the first place. The ones who stay are the ones who really matter and the ones that you want to spend your time growing old with. They are the ones that you have the conversations with that reach to the depths of your soul. They are the ones who are there to pick up the pieces for you when everything seems to be falling around you. I have spent way too much time with people who take from me emotionally and don’t give back. If I had said what I felt earlier in the relationship, things would have gone differently. Lesson learned. Sometimes this is a lesson learned by me over and over……I am a slow learner I guess!
When you say what you feel, it is different from saying what you think. It is all about having a proper filter on. Here is the difference: “I deserve to be treated better by you” versus “I think you are a horrible person”. One really gets to the heart of the matter, the other is just name calling. Reach in the depths of your soul and really get in touch with what you feel. So often,we as women keep what we feel to ourselves. When we do this, it causes us to do unhealthy things. We stuff our feeling down with food, shopping, alcohol, drugs or affairs.
Free yourself of all of that and say what you feel and find out what I mean. Someone calls you and asks you to chair the book fair at your kids school, you may say yes out of guilt. But what if you really said what you felt? And don’t use the lazy answer of “I am too busy”….this is a topic for a whole other blog post! Say instead, “I would rather not”. Keep it simple and don’t give excuses. I know I will respect you far more if you were up front and honest. When I ask someone to do something, I want them to do it because they want to, not out of guilt or as a favor to me. Don’t you want the same? So do the same thing and speak the truth.
And guess what, I can handle the truth and I will say what I feel and I bet you can too!
To Joyful, Simplified Living,
MS. Simplicity, also known as Melissa Schmalenberger operates her business as I Did it with MS. Simplicity. She is a Professional Organizer based out of Fargo, ND and her website can be found at http://www.ididit-fargo.com/.
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