Notes To My Boys: Be Kind


Does it seem like there is a lack of kindness that is going around? I want to turn that trend around and bring civility and manners back in fashion. In a time where the characters from “Jersey Shore” get more media following them then the kinds deeds of volunteers from around the world, please join me as we try to change this one child at a time.

Here are a few things that I want my boys to remember about being kind:

  1. When someone is having a bad day and yelling at you, it is rarely about you and more about them. Smile, show them love and patience and see how you can improve their day. Don’t engage in a battle with them, because nobody wins in that situation. When I am yelling at you, just hug me and say “I love you mom” and that will make everything better.
  2. Hold the door open for everyone. When you walk through a door, always pause and hold the door open for the person who is following you, without exception.
  3. When someone says “thank you”, look them in the eye and reply “your welcome”, don’t grunt.
  4. When you are a guest at someones home, make sure that when you leave the home is in better condition than when you arrived. This may mean helping with dishes, taking out the garbage or sweeping the floor. Be a gracious guest and always ask what you can help with, unless you don’t want to be invited back.
  5. Show people you love them by words, deeds and action. Cook a meal for a loved one, sit and listen with a friend when they are having a bad day or volunteer for a charity. These are all good ways to show love.
  6. My favorite Gandhi quote is “be the change you wish to see in the world”. If there is something you don’t like that is happening, you must take a stand and try to change it. For example if you see a lack of leadership in something that you are involved in, start volunteering and put some sweat equity in and try to show you care by your hard work. You vote with your feet, so show up and work and show that you care.
  7. Remember special occasions and give a gift from your heart. This does not mean spending a lot of money on someone, but rather finding out what makes that person happy and doing it. For example, someone might just like you to spend time with them, so make time for them.

Love Mom

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